Love Language Test for Couples
Take the test on your own phones, then see both of your love languages side by side. Free, and about four minutes each.
The five love languages you will rank
- Words of AffirmationHearing "I love you", being thanked by name, and getting praise for effort, not only results.
- Quality TimeLong talks, shared plans, and moments when the rest of the world is put on hold.
- Receiving GiftsSmall surprises that show they listened, and keepsakes from times you shared.
- Acts of ServiceA task done before you asked, a hard day made easier, and follow-through on promises.
- Physical TouchHugs hello and goodbye, holding hands, and closeness during hard moments.
- Then send your link and compare with your partner.
Quick answer
A love language test for couples has both partners take the same test separately, then compares their rankings of the five love languages side by side. It shows where you match, where you differ, and how each of you can love the other in a way they feel.
How it works
- 1You take the 30-question test.
- 2Send the private link to your partner. They take it on their phone.
- 3See both rankings side by side, with what they mean for you two.
Why take it together
Knowing your own love language is useful. Knowing your partner's changes how you love them. Most couples have different top love languages, and most of the small hurts in a relationship come from one person giving love in a language the other does not feel.
A common example
Alex feels most loved through Words of Affirmation. Sam feels most loved through Acts of Service. Alex says "I love you" ten times a day and cannot understand why Sam feels unappreciated. Sam fixes the car and does the dishes and cannot understand why Alex feels unloved. Both are trying. Neither is landing.
How to use your results
- Talk about the top two. Ask each other: what is one thing I could do this week in your language?
- Watch the gaps. If your partner's top language is your lowest, that is the one worth practicing.
- Make it small and daily. A 20-second hug or a note in a lunch bag beats a big gesture once a year.
- Take it again. Love languages can shift over time, especially after big life changes.
Want to say it in writing? Make a list of reasons why I love you or a set of open when letters.
SoulMatch is independent and is not affiliated with The 5 Love Languages® or Gary Chapman.
Questions parents ask
How does the couples love language test work?
You take the 30-question test first. You get a private link to send to your partner. They take the same test on their phone, and then both of you see your rankings side by side with a short reading of what they mean.
Will my partner see my answers?
No. They see your final scores, not your individual answers. And they only see your scores after they finish their own test, so their answers are not influenced by yours.
Do we both need an account?
No. Nothing is stored on our servers. Your result travels inside the link you share. Anyone with that link can see your scores, so send it only to your partner.
What if we have different love languages?
Most couples do. It is not a problem. It just means each of you needs to learn to give love in a way that may not come naturally. The comparison shows exactly where the gap is.
What is in the couple guide?
The paid Love Language Kit prints your results side by side, a page of ideas for loving each of you, a 30-day love challenge built from both of your top languages, and cards for the fridge. It comes in 10 designs.
Can we use this for premarital counseling?
Many couples use it as a conversation starter before marriage. It is a reflection tool, not counseling. If you are preparing for marriage, it works well alongside sessions with a counselor or pastor.
Do I need an account or an app?
No. Everything works in your browser on a phone, tablet or computer. There is no account, no password and nothing to install.
Why do you ask for my email?
We ask once, when you download your first PDF. It lets us send you new free ideas for couples. Every email has an unsubscribe link, and we never sell your address.
What paper and printer do I need?
Any home printer and plain white paper work. The PDF is US Letter size and also fits A4 if you choose 'fit to page'. Card stock makes cards and labels feel special.
Is my information private?
Yes. Names, answers and letters are made inside your browser and are not stored on our servers. A couple comparison travels inside the link you share, so only people with the link can see it.
What is in the kits?
The Love Notes Kit unlocks all 10 designs, reasons as cards and jar slips, all 16 open when letters and envelope labels. The Love Language Kit adds a printable couple guide with ideas, a 30-day challenge and fridge cards. $4.99 each, or $8 for both.
Is a kit a subscription?
No. You pay once. There is nothing to cancel and no renewal. If it does not work for you, email us within 14 days for a refund.