Free Love Language Test
Find out how you feel most loved. 30 quick questions, all five love languages ranked, and a link to compare with your partner.
The five love languages you will rank
- Words of AffirmationHearing "I love you", being thanked by name, and getting praise for effort, not only results.
- Quality TimeLong talks, shared plans, and moments when the rest of the world is put on hold.
- Receiving GiftsSmall surprises that show they listened, and keepsakes from times you shared.
- Acts of ServiceA task done before you asked, a hard day made easier, and follow-through on promises.
- Physical TouchHugs hello and goodbye, holding hands, and closeness during hard moments.
- Then send your link and compare with your partner.
Quick answer
A love language test asks you to choose between pairs of statements to find which of the five love languages matters most to you: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service or Physical Touch. This free test takes about four minutes and ranks all five.
How it works
- 1Type your first name and start.
- 2Answer 30 quick pairs. Pick the one that would make you feel more loved.
- 3See all five ranked, then send the link to your partner to compare.
The five love languages, in plain words
Words of Affirmation
You feel most loved when love is said out loud. Kind words, honest praise and a simple "I'm proud of you" fill you up more than almost anything else.
Quality Time
You feel most loved with someone's full attention. Phones down, eyes up, and time that is only about the two of you.
Receiving Gifts
You feel most loved by a thoughtful token. It is not about price. It is the proof that someone thought of you when you were not there.
Acts of Service
You feel most loved when someone lightens your load. Actions speak louder than words to you, and help without being asked means the world.
Physical Touch
You feel most loved through closeness. A hand to hold, a hug that lasts, sitting close on the couch. Touch tells you that you are safe and wanted.
How to read your results
Your top score is your primary love language. It is the way you most easily notice love. Your second score often matters nearly as much, so read both. A low score does not mean you do not like that kind of love. It just means it is not what fills you up first.
Scores close together, like 8, 7 and 7, mean you are flexible: several kinds of love land with you. A score far ahead of the rest, like 10, means one love language does most of the work.
Why it matters for couples
Most people give love the way they like to receive it. If you feel loved through quality time, you may plan long dinners for a partner who would rather you did the dishes. Knowing both of your love languages helps you give love in a way the other person actually feels.
That is why the best way to use this test is together. Take it, send the link to your partner, and look at your results side by side. Then try the love language test for couples guide, or say it in writing with a reasons why I love you list.
SoulMatch is independent and is not affiliated with The 5 Love Languages® or Gary Chapman. Our questions and texts are original.
Questions parents ask
What are the five love languages?
Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service and Physical Touch. They describe the main ways people tend to give and feel love. Most people have one or two that matter most to them.
Is this the official 5 Love Languages® quiz?
No. This is an independent, free test written by SoulMatch. It uses the same five categories that Gary Chapman described in his book, with our own questions. It is not affiliated with or endorsed by The 5 Love Languages® or its publishers.
How long does the love language test take?
About four minutes. There are 30 pairs of statements. For each pair, you pick the one that would make you feel more loved.
How are the scores worked out?
Each love language appears in 12 statements, so each one scores from 0 to 12. The five scores always add up to 30. Your highest score is your primary love language, and your second highest often matters almost as much.
What if two of my scores are tied?
That is common. It means both love languages matter to you about equally. Read both descriptions and think about which one you would miss more if it disappeared.
Can my love language change?
Yes. Love languages can shift with life stages, stress, a new baby or a move. Many people take the test again every year or two.
Can I compare results with my partner?
Yes. After your result, copy the link and send it to your partner. They take the same test on their own phone, and you both see your results side by side.
Is the love language test free?
Yes. The test, your full ranking and your partner comparison are free. You can download your results as a PDF after entering your email. The paid Love Language Kit adds a printable couple guide.
Do I need an account or an app?
No. Everything works in your browser on a phone, tablet or computer. There is no account, no password and nothing to install.
Why do you ask for my email?
We ask once, when you download your first PDF. It lets us send you new free ideas for couples. Every email has an unsubscribe link, and we never sell your address.
What paper and printer do I need?
Any home printer and plain white paper work. The PDF is US Letter size and also fits A4 if you choose 'fit to page'. Card stock makes cards and labels feel special.
Is my information private?
Yes. Names, answers and letters are made inside your browser and are not stored on our servers. A couple comparison travels inside the link you share, so only people with the link can see it.
What is in the kits?
The Love Notes Kit unlocks all 10 designs, reasons as cards and jar slips, all 16 open when letters and envelope labels. The Love Language Kit adds a printable couple guide with ideas, a 30-day challenge and fridge cards. $4.99 each, or $8 for both.
Is a kit a subscription?
No. You pay once. There is nothing to cancel and no renewal. If it does not work for you, email us within 14 days for a refund.